The British-Tamil Experience: Perks of Having a Tamil Father
Updated: Feb 9, 2021
By Sangeeta Santha
my father expresses in riddles
or silence or anger or neutrality.
a childhood fostered without feelings
has become his Tamil ‘therapy’.
growing up, his lack of emotions hurt,
i felt undesirable.
but he has been learning from me
and our bond is no longer dysfunctional.
for the next generation however,
this intergenerational trauma ends with me.
because i know now,
emotions explored, sets one free.
(and quite frankly, it’s not with bloody riddles!)